Day 1- Love Dare
Love Dare, Day#1 - Topic: Love is Patient
Love works. It is life's most powerful motivator and has far greater depth and meaning than most people realise. No marriage is succesful without it.
The two pillars of Love are patience and kindness. All other characteristics of Love are an extensions of these two attributes.
Love inspires us to grow in patience. When we're patient we respond positively to a negative situation. We CHOOSE to have a long fuse instead of a quick temper. It helps us not to be restless or demanding, but to extend mercy to those around us.
Patience brings an internal calm during an external storm. It stops problems in their tracks. Few of us do patience very well, and none of us do it naturally. The irony of anger toward a wrongful action is that it spawns new wrongs of its own. Anger does not make things better, it only creates more problems.
Wise men and women will pursue patience as an essential ingredient to their marriage relationship. Patience is where love meets wisdom and every marriage needs a combination of the two.
Patience helps you give your spouse permission to be human. It understands that everyone fails. When a mistake is made, it chooses to give them more time than they deserve to correct it. It gives you the ability to hold on during tough times in your relationship rather than bailing under pressure.
Patience is a good starting point to demonstrate true love. Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint. You need patience to run this race worth running.
Can your spouse count on having a patient husband or wife to deal with? Can he know that locking his car keys in the car will be met by your understanding rather than a demanding lecture? Can she know that the emotional outburts she had today can be met with understanding rather than be chalked up as one more demerit point closer to saying that's it?
Today's readings- "With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love;" (Ephesians 4:2), "He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly." (Proverbs 14:29), "A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife." (Proverbs 15:18) and 1Thess 5:15- "See that none render evil for evil unto any man; but ever follow that which is good, both among yourselves, and to all men."
((Summary and excerpts of the forty days "Love Dare" vy Stephen and Alex Kendrick. Partner book to "Fireproof"... Welcome to Day One!))
TODAY'S DARE:
The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Altho' love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. for the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises. choose not to say anything. It's better to hold your tongue than to say something you'll regret.
REFLECTION:
Did anything your spouse do today upset and anger you? Were you tempted to let disapproving thoughts arise and come out in words?
Love works. It is life's most powerful motivator and has far greater depth and meaning than most people realise. No marriage is succesful without it.
The two pillars of Love are patience and kindness. All other characteristics of Love are an extensions of these two attributes.
Love inspires us to grow in patience. When we're patient we respond positively to a negative situation. We CHOOSE to have a long fuse instead of a quick temper. It helps us not to be restless or demanding, but to extend mercy to those around us.
Patience brings an internal calm during an external storm. It stops problems in their tracks. Few of us do patience very well, and none of us do it naturally. The irony of anger toward a wrongful action is that it spawns new wrongs of its own. Anger does not make things better, it only creates more problems.
Wise men and women will pursue patience as an essential ingredient to their marriage relationship. Patience is where love meets wisdom and every marriage needs a combination of the two.
Patience helps you give your spouse permission to be human. It understands that everyone fails. When a mistake is made, it chooses to give them more time than they deserve to correct it. It gives you the ability to hold on during tough times in your relationship rather than bailing under pressure.
Patience is a good starting point to demonstrate true love. Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint. You need patience to run this race worth running.
Can your spouse count on having a patient husband or wife to deal with? Can he know that locking his car keys in the car will be met by your understanding rather than a demanding lecture? Can she know that the emotional outburts she had today can be met with understanding rather than be chalked up as one more demerit point closer to saying that's it?
Today's readings- "With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love;" (Ephesians 4:2), "He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly." (Proverbs 14:29), "A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife." (Proverbs 15:18) and 1Thess 5:15- "See that none render evil for evil unto any man; but ever follow that which is good, both among yourselves, and to all men."
((Summary and excerpts of the forty days "Love Dare" vy Stephen and Alex Kendrick. Partner book to "Fireproof"... Welcome to Day One!))
TODAY'S DARE:
The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Altho' love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. for the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises. choose not to say anything. It's better to hold your tongue than to say something you'll regret.
REFLECTION:
Did anything your spouse do today upset and anger you? Were you tempted to let disapproving thoughts arise and come out in words?
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