Love Dare: Day 3 ;)
We live in a world that is absorbed with "self". Our culture trains us to put "self" as the number one priority. The danger from this kind of thinking, however, becomes painfully obvious once we're in a marriage relationship.
If there ever was a word opposite to the word "LOVE", it would be "SELFISHNESS". It is a trait we hate in others but justify in ourselves. One can't point out how the spouse is selfish without admitting that you can be selfish too.
So why do we hate such low standards for ourselves but high expectations for our mate? The answer is a painful silk to swallow. We are ALL selfish.
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When a husband puts his interests, desires and priorities in front of his wife, that's selfishness. When a wife constantly complains about the time and energy she spends meeting the needs of her husband, that's also a sign of selfishness.
But love "does not seek its own" ( 1 Cor 13:5). Loving couples- ones who are enjoying the full purpose of marriage- are cent on taking good care of the other flawed human they get to share their life with. That's because true love looks for ways to say YES.
One ironic aspect of selfishness is that even generous actions can be selfish if the motive is to earn bragging rights. The bottom line? You either make decisions out of love for others or for yourself. It's either one or the other. Putting th happiness of your spouse above your own doesn't mean you can't experience happiness, but you don't negate your spouse's happiness so you can enjoy it yourself.
Love leads to inner joy. When you prioritise the well-being of your mate, there is a resulting fulfilment that can't be duplicated by selfish actions.
Remember your marriage partner also has the challenge of loving a selfish person. It's two ways. So determine to be the first to demonstrate real love to them with eyes wide open.
TODAY'S READING-
Phil 2:3- Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves.
Rom 12:10- Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honour.
TODAY'S DARE
Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you're not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, "I was thinking of you today."
REFLECTION-
What did you choose to give your spouse? What happened when you gave it?
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